It is no secret these days, that wedding planning is hard work. Together you spend months planning and put dozens of resources into the culmination of your one special day. But one of the most forgotten details of the entire wedding day, is often, one of the things that can either make or break it. Your guests. Yes, your wedding guests have the power to either shape the wedding the way you envisioned it, or unfortunately, they can make it a complete dud.
But how to prevent Uncle Bob from hounding the open bar? What can you do to ensure that your guests don’t vacate the dance floor? These secrets revealed below will help your guests follow your unwritten wedding protocol, and ensure that your wedding day flows exactly how you imagined it!
SECRET #1: Asses Your Age Pool. Do you have an older crowd in general? Do you have a lot of kids? Truly look at the ages and more importantly, the generation of your wedding guests. If you are looking for an energetic, jump on the dance floor reception (yet have mostly aunts/uncles and your parent’s friends at the party) your DJ’s attempts to load them onto the dance floor could be in vein. Nothing is worse than an empty dance floor! Once you’ve assessed an average age group, trying to incorporate some tunes that appeal to this crowd. Once people are on the dance floor, it is easy for make them stick around longer.
SECRET #2: Dictate a “Crowd Manager” Position to One of Your Trusted Family Members. Once the ceremony is over and you and the wedding party go off for pictures, many times the guests aren’t sure what to do. From a guest perspective, this is usually the most boring party of their day, as they have to wait for your return to the reception. The solution? Appoint a family member to secretly help manage the crowd — direction them to fun games at cocktail hour, a special trip downtown to their favorite bar, point out the backstory of all your reception decor , etc. Let that person lend some conversation and direction to your guests, so that they are already feeling the positive energy and excited for you guys to return to the reception.
SECRET #3: Do You Really Need a Bouquet and Garter Toss? One of the recently declining wedding traditions is the bouquet and garter toss. It is not really a point of pride to catch the bride’s bouquet anymore — in fact, it is mostly seen as an embarrassment from the women’s perspective, if they get pulled onto the dance floor, signaling that they are still single at your wedding. If you know your friend’s would not appreciate the push, or if you have a lack of single friends, you may consider ditching the bouquet and garter toss from the events of the reception. Nothing kills the mood of the reception when only 3 friends are dragged up to catch a flying bouquet.
SECRET #4: Have a Designated Kid Event. If kids are invited to your wedding, they can often created quite a ruckus at the reception. By the time the evening comes around, most parents are ready to cut loose and enjoy some “adult time,” and more often than not, their kids at let loose on your wedding decor, centerpieces, and dessert table.
The last thing you want to do at your reception, is scold the kid sticking his fingers in your cake. Put aside a kid’s room if you can, or a table in the corner with activities, games, and points of interest to designate that parents can leave their kids at the table, and that is where they should stay.