Use a hands on approach
Take time to really explore your spouse’s body and allow them to explore yours. Use your hands and rub all over their body. Having you touch them all over will cause them to feel sexy and confident.
You can also do self exploration when you are with your spouse. I am not suggesting you get alone to do this, but that you do it with your lover right there. If you feel weird rubbing your own body, guide your spouse’s hand over you.
Wear something you feel good in
Put on an outfit that makes you feel good about the way you look. This goes for both of you. If you or your spouse has no idea what to wear, then pick out something for one another.
It is important that your spouse knows what they wear that makes you feel turned on. This can be a fun date night if you want to go out and pick something for one another.
Directly stimulate each other
Use your mouth, tongue, fingers, hand or whatever you choose to directly stimulate your lover. When you pay attention to them down there, it will help them feel sexy. Make sure you are looking up at them and lock eyes.
If you are the one being pleased, pay attention to what your lover is doing for you. Again, parring visual stimulation with physical stimulation will tell your brain what sexy looks and feels like.
Flirt, flirt, and flirt some more
The flirting you do doesn’t have to just be foreplay. You can give them that look while you are cooking dinner. Grab their butt when you walk by. Text a sweet message during the day.
Find ways that you can flirt with your spouse that appeals to them. They will feel good about themselves because you are paying attention to them.
Talk during lovemaking
Use your bedroom language with your spouse during lovemaking. These words can be whatever you have established ahead of time as being ok.
Be sure to describe to your lover what you like about their body. Share with them how their motions make you feel. Tell them what you can see and how it turns you on.
Of course, you need to make sure you aren’t talking too much that it causes you or them to feel distracted.
These are a few things you can do as a couple to feel sexy together. All of these ideas are things you can do in the bedroom.
I realize that there are other things you can do as a couple to feel sexy, other than what you do behind closed doors. I think that physical intimacy is a great place to start, though.