Examples Of Quality Time
- Cook or bake together.
- Go for a walk.
- Stay away from digital devices when spending time together.
- Play card/board games.
- Plan an overnight or day trip together.
- A night in with movies and cuddles.
- Work out together.
- Engage in quality conversations.
- Play 20 questions to keep getting to know one another.
- Be childish together (eat cereal on the floor, sing out loud, dance to your favorite songs).
Receiving Gifts Love Language
As the name suggests, the love language of giving gifts places an emphasis on receiving things from your partner.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that you value expensive items – you may be just as happy (or even happier) with small tokens of affection, or handmade things.
Someone who doesn’t care much about wealth can still have a love language of gift gifting.
The point is just that you like to receive tokens of affection, and you view such gifts as a marker of the other person’s care for you.
In your eyes, items are more representative of your partner’s love than, for example, compliments, or time spent together.
If you’re with someone whose love language is gift giving, one thing to keep in mind is these gifts are about showing love, not about buying it or buying forgiveness after a fight.
Think about your timing, your intention, and how to make the gift a surprise (if your partner likes surprises!). In addition, note that the gifts you give don’t have to be material objects.
They can also be trips, experiences, and classes.
Notice what your partner feels passionate about, and try to tailor your gifts to these passions.
Examples Of Receiving Gifts
- Buy flowers for no reason.
- Get them something they wanted for a while.
- Sign them up for a class they are interested in.
- Make a little hamper of things using their favorite color/theme.
- Make hand made gifts.
- Plan an experience out of the ordinary (Trampolining, Hicking, beach day).
- “It made me think of you” gift.
- “I was thinking of you” gift when going away.
- Frame a photo of the two of you together.
Physical Touch Love Language
The final love language is physical touch, which can manifest in a range of different ways. Some people with this love language like to sit close together most of the time, holding hands or snuggled into each other.
Meanwhile, others are more focused on communicating and experiencing love through sex, or focus on needing an embrace when saying hello or goodbye.
What unifies all people with this love language is feeling most cared for and most secure when in some kind of physical contact with their partner.
If you’re not a person who values physical touch as much, you may need to remind yourself that your partner does need this.
Setting a goal of giving them a specific number or hugs or kisses through the day can help, as can developing a ritual where (say) you kiss them each time you come home.
And if you genuinely don’t enjoy being that physically close, find ways to compromise – for example, if you can’t get comfortable with someone wrapped around you in bed, holding hands or resting your feet against each other may play just the same comforting role for your partner.
Examples Of Physical Touch
- Embracing regularly (Goodbye and hello hugs).
- Arm around the shoulder, waist or hand-holding while walking.
- Small body contact like your hand on their leg when sitting down to watch something.
- A surprise hug from behind while your partner is cooking.
- Tickling your partner.
- Holding your partner when they feel negative emotions.
- Stroking and combing through partners hair.
- Gentle stroke on face/cheeks.
- A small kiss on the hand, cheeks, shoulder, forehead, etc.
Can You Be With Someone With A Different Love Language?
Now, reading through the above love languages you’ll have noticed some significant differences in how each type of person expresses and experiences love.
As a result, you might be worried about whether two people with different love languages can ever have a successful and happy relationship.
The good news is that many – if not most – people end up with a partner who doesn’t speak the same love language. So how does this work?
The key is open, honest communication and a consistent willingness to make adjustments.
Firstly, it’s important to discuss your love languages.
Explain to each other how you relate to the concept of love, and what kinds of things make you feel good. Be willing to give examples, rather than expecting your partner to read your mind.
Secondly, acknowledge that some compromise will always be needed.
The person who loves compliments but doesn’t like spending money may need to work to accept that gifts are what keep their partner happy.
Meanwhile, the person who would prefer to cuddle on the sofa than to talk about their feelings may need to develop a more refined set of communication skills to promote a sense of security in their partner.
If you are currently having some problems in your existing relationship, understanding your partners’ love language is starting to make your partner feel loved.
There is no reason why you can’t fall in love again and awaken the spark.